Below you will find some resources that we have found helpful throughout the foster adoption process.
Books: On Adoption, Foster-Adoption, and (Attachment) Parenting
- Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special-Needs Kids, Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky
- Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today’s Parents, Deborah D. Gray
- Attachment Focused Parenting: Effective Strategies to Care for Children, Daniel Hughes
- Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors, Heather Forbes
- The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk
- Brain-Based Parenting: The Neuroscience of Caregiving for Healthy Attachment, Daniel Hughes
- Building the Bond of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children, Daniel Hughes
- The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family, Karyn Purvis
- Creating Loving Attachments: Parenting with PACE to Nurture Confidence and Security in the Troubled Child, Daniel Hughes
- Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder, Jessie Hogsett
- The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children, Ross Greene
- Forever Mom: What to Expect When You’re Adopting, Mary Ostyn
- From Fear to Love: Parenting Difficult Adopted Children, Bryan Post
- The Great Behaviour Breakdown, Bryan Post
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
- Inside I’m Hurting: Practical Strategies for Supporting Children with Attachment Difficulties in Schools, Louise Bomber
- Learning the Dance of Attachment: An Adoptive Foster Parent’s Guide to Nurturing Healthy Development, Holly Van Goulding
- Lost and Found: Helping Behaviorally Challenging Students (and While You’re At It, All the Others), Ross Greene [directed to educators]
- Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, Daniel Siegel
- The New Authority: Family, School, and Community, Haim Omer
- No-Drama Discipline, The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Daniel Siegel
- The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder, Carol Kranowitz
- Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions: Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts and Aggressive Behaviors, Pat Harvey
- Parenting from the Inside: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help you Raise Kids Who Thrive, Daniel Siegel
- Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow, Gregory Keck & Regina Kupecky
- The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child, Nancy Verrier
- Raising Children Compassionately: Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way, Marshall Rosenberg
- Reparenting the Child Who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments, Christine Gordon
- Therapeutic Parenting in a Nutshell: Positives and Pitfalls, Sarah Naish
- Trying Differently Rather than Harder: Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders, Diane Malbin
- The Unofficial Guide to Adoptive Parenting: The Small Stuff, the Big Stuff, and the Stuff In Between, Sally Donovan
- When Love is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting with RAD-Reaction Attachment Disorder, Nancy Thomas
- What Every Parent Needs to Know: The Incredible Effects of Love, Nurture, and Play on Your Child’s Development, Margot Sunderland
- The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Daniel Siegel
- Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain, Sue Gerhardt
- Your Competent Child: Toward a New Paradigm in Parenting and Education, Jesper Juul
Books: Memoirs on the topics of Adoption and Foster-Adoption
- The Art of Waiting: On Fertility, Medicine, and Motherhood, Belle Boggs
- Everything You Ever Wanted: A Memoir, Jillian Lauren
- God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother, Amy Seek
- To Have and Not to Hold: The Bonding of Two Mothers through Adoption, Lorri Benson
- Holding on and Hanging in: The Story of a Boy, His Forever Family, and Their Journey from Trauma to Healing, Lorna Miles
- Instant Mom, Nia Vardalos [Excerpt]
- Special Needs: Adoption Journeys of an Older Couple, Michael Deaterla
- You Don’t Look Adopted: A Memoir, Anne Heffron
Adoptive Families. This is a both an online and print publication. There is a good deal of free content, but most of the content requires a subscription, which is definitely worth the price. The webinars are a wealth of knowledge, and there is just so much helpful content for any area adoption whether it is open adoption, foster parenting, and foster adoption, the process of adoption itself, resources on bonding, and perspectives on transracial adoption. This is probably the resource I return to the most. Highly recommended.
AdoptUSKids. This is an extremely helpful place that provides resources for foster, adoptive, and foster-adoptive parents, and is especially rich in articles for a place to start learning about the different avenues. Their article entitled “About Adoption from Foster Care” is a wonderful place to start getting some questions answered. (Note: always make sure to check on your State and County laws as they will always vary.)
Confessions of an Adoptive Parent. Adoptive Parents of 8 | Bloggers | Speakers | Helping weary foster and adoptive parents regain hope and finally stop feeling alone. Also found on Facebook and Twitter (Mike | Kristin).
Empowered to Connect. Videos and Study Guide parenting tools for adoptive and foster parents.
Blogs and Podcasts
- For Ever, For Always, No Matter What. Although she mostly focuses on home school stuff these days, their adoption story and their posts on the topic are wonderfully encouraging and helpful.
- Foster Parenting Podcast. The importance of this now thinned-out podcast was first mentioned here.
- Roots before Branches: exploring the depths in order to reach for the skies. The blog of Casey Chappell, who chronicles her and her husband’s journey of parenting six children, some of whom are adopted.
- Tomato’s Vine. On infertility and adoption.
Note: This list has been adapted and added to from another list that was made by a family who has adopted children.