An Education in Waiting

From what we’ve made made aware of and in our experience so far in the foster-adoption process, there seems to be roughly two stages: the whirlwind of being matched with a child and the drama of everything after, or, the stage that typically comes before that which is simply one of waiting. Sure, there are so many more real things that happen during both of these periods, but once you’ve gone through the piles of paperwork, trainings, certifications, interviews, and a house inspection, everything else in between is just that, a time in between.

Brief reflections on the film Martian Child

One of the ways that my wife and I handle the waiting process is by reading or listening to books on the subject of adoption and foster-adoption, or by watching documentaries and films on this theme. A couple of evenings ago, we decided to try and find an adoption-themed movie. After perusing some of the posts on the Adoptive Families website, we settled upon a film called Martian Child starring John Cusack, Bobby Coleman, Amanda Peet, and Oliver Platt. There are plenty of kid-age-friendly movies out there with foster/adoption themes (and this one pretty much is as well being rated PG), but we were looking for something slightly more from both the perspective of the child and the adoptive parents. (Note: the discussion below will discuss plot points and thus contain spoilers.)

Foster-Adoption Resources

I wanted to signal a couple of things. The first is that I’ve updated the Foster-Adoption Resources page quite extensively. It is in part based upon another list posted from an online friend of mine as well as heavily supplanted by my own research and reading.

Secondly, my wife recently told me about a podcast entitled Foster Parenting Podcast. In particular, this episode called “All the Dirt on Foster Care and Why You Should Still Do it.” It’s a really outstanding digest of a list of responses to a bunch of the things typically said to them—things that are said with a good intention but often end up being hurtful or at least spoken in an ignorance that isn’t helpful. The episode is very encouraging and comes highly recommended.

Unfortunately, the two hosts have decided to take a hiatus and have deleted a majority of the episodes of their podcast, but for an understandable reason. Thankfully, they’ve at least left up a good handful of their favorite episodes that have a more generalized approach (and also don’t contain some of the information that they would prefer to keep private now that their children are getting older). You can still find their remaining episodes on iTunes and they have an active Facebook page that is well worth checking out.